How do you separate?

How do you separate your experience as a young athlete from your child's experience? Youth coaches have been dealing with this issue since the advent of youth sports. A coach wants his son or daughter to be their best and sometimes it comes at the expense of other kids. The competitive nature of the coaches sometimes overwhelms the experience for the kids and then its get ugly. How do we balance our desire for our kids to do well and the needs of all the kids? Anyone got an answer?